Infidelity and Affairs:
Helping Couples Heal their Broken Hearts
Overview: One-Day workshop description. This workshop can also be presented in a half-day format.
The disclosure of an affair is among the most devastating and painful experiences that couples face. It is also one of the most challenging and complicated problems encountered in therapy. This workshop will examine various forms of infidelity, the impact of its discovery on each spouse and the marriage, and issues of recovery and treatment. Some of the challenges encountered in treatment include: how much about the affair should be disclosed, how to help with shattered trust, hyper vigilance, and anxiety, and how to build empathy between the partners. Some important insights that have been gained in understanding and treating infidelity and affairs will be reviewed. In addition, a framework for the treatment of infidelity rooted in Relationship Enhancement Therapy will be presented. The instructor will present a live demonstration and illustrative case material. Participants are encouraged to bring case material for discussion, as well.
Objectives: Participants will be able to: (1) Integrate two complementary perspectives in the treatment of infidelity; (2) Identify key thematic considerations in understanding and treating infidelity, including pitfalls to avoid; (3) Address the issue of confidentiality in couples therapy with clarity; (4) Understand the importance of maintaining the primacy of joint sessions while also using individual sessions to support the joint couples work; (5) Gain knowledge of how to use a couple’s dialogue process and the empathic technique of “Becoming” to facilitate the couple’s work of emotional healing.
Learning Methods: Lecture, discussion, role-play demonstration and case presentations by Instructor and participants.