Mastering the Mysteries of Love RE Program Leadership Training

MML Program Leader Training Workshops
April 15-16, 2011
Bethesda, Maryland (2 blocks from the Metro)


MO 40Mastering the Mysteries of Love (MML) is a research-validated Relationship Enhancement® Program developed by Dr. Bernard Guerney, Jr. and Mary Ortwein, MS. You will be qualified to teach the 8 hour MML program ideal for low income, community, or faith based groups.


Upon completion of this workshop, participants will be able to:

  • Teach five core RE skills (Listening, Expression, Discussion, Problem Solving, Conflict Management)
  • Coach couples to apply RE skills in their relationship
  • Create educational sessions that are fun for both you and your participants
  • Combine experiential learning and skills training activities
  • Adapt and adjust curriculum to your community

Who Should Attend:


Community and faith-based marriage and relationship educators, clergy, students in the helping professions, professionals who want to include an educational approach for their families and couples.
Cost: $225 per person includes leader manual, participant workbook, snacks and certificate of completion ($150 for spouse w/one leader manual and 2 workbooks)

Workshop Presenter: Joan Liversidge, MS, LCMFT call on  240-678-3929   or e-mail

To register, contact:

National Institute for Relationship Enhancement, Center for Couples, Families and Children at  301-680-8977 or

What is Mastering the Mysteries of Love?

It’s the Same, but Different!

MML teaches the same skills as RE Therapy and the traditional RE program. The difference is in how they are taught. MML uses a multi-modality shaping process to help participants and clients learn the RE skills gradually.

  • High interest experiential activities introduce each new concept. Each skill is taught at multiple levels: Basics, main points, and finally the fine points. This makes the skills easier to learn and teach.
  •  Materials are written on a 5th grade level, but they are presented with sufficient finesse that no one is diminished by the simplicity.
  •  Video, group and couple practice activities, and the Experience Diagram make MML a multi-modal way to learn the time-tested RE skills.

What We’ll Do

After a brief introduction, most of the first day will be learning and experiencing the MML core skills through the multi-modal process using the MML Participant Book. Day Two will be spent going through the MML Leader’s Guide to focus on teaching methods. These will include:

  • Perspective Exercise in the Introduction
  • Teaching in stages: Introduce, Teach, Practice, Process, Practice some more
  • Use of the Experience Diagram and the Falling Leaf to Teach Empathy
  • Put the Picture in the Frame, Expression Practice Cards, and When I think of us as a couple… to teach Expression Skill
  • Teaching Conflict Management around a Stoplight image

The day will conclude with processing and questions and information about adapting the program to your specific populations. We will also discuss accessing technical assistance and support through IDEALS.

Location, Registration 

 4400 East West Highway, Bethesda, Maryland
9 am to 5 pm, Friday and Saturday

Pay by check or credit card to NIRE (see front for telephone and e-mail). 

CE Information
13 hours of CE credits are provided to psychologists, social workers, counselors, and play therapists. For further information, see Continuing Education Information.


Additional Information about Mastering the Mysteries of Love RE

Mastering the Mysteries of Love RE (MML) has been used by over 14,000 couples in the past two years. Widely used by Healthy Marriage Initiatives around the country, current program evaluations consistently put it at the top of pack for program effectiveness.  Materials for MML are available through a cooperative arrangement with NIRE’s sister organization, IDEALS of Kentucky.  Here is information about MML from their website,


Mastering the Mysteries of Love: A Relationship Enhancement® Program for Couples is a 16 hour relationship skills program for couples. It includes ALL of the concepts and skills of the traditional Relationship Enhancement® Program in the activity-based learning style of Love’s Cradle RE and Mastering the Magic of Love RE. Mastering the Mysteries of Love RE was created specifically to teach couples in stable relationships how to use the RE skills to deepen their love by forming new habits while solving current marital issues. The program is especially suited to community Healthy Marriage Initiative programs led by volunteers.

Mastering the Mysteries of Love RE uses ordinary words and step-by-step directions for the 10 RE skills. Participant materials are written simply-like Hemingway’s Old Man and the Sea -yet with a deep respect for every reader. Group instruction includes group discussions, audio-visuals (DVD or role play), and practice activities that keep both reluctant and highly motivated learners engaged.

Mastering the Mysteries of Love RE includes:

A 101 page participant activity book

A 262 page Leader’s Guide with detailed, easy-to-read instructions for volunteer or professional leaders

Instructional videos with RE skill demonstrations

Powerpoint presentation and other teaching aids.

Order Form and Price List:  See Order Form at the top of the  HOME page.  For questions about materials, contact Jessica at 502-227-0055.  Fax:  502-848-8872  Email:

FREE SHIPPING    All materials are shipped USPS Priority Mail.   Please allow 2 weeks for delivery, since many items are printed as needed.

The Difference RE Makes
Relationship Enhancement® Programs give couples experiences in deep intimacy-even in the heart of conflict-while teaching them tools to make problem solutions LAST. During the program couples work through issues via extended couple dialogues. At the end of the course they have worked out 3-4 problems and have learned how to put and keep honesty, compassion, empathy, and trust in their relationship.


The Relationship Enhancement® Program was developed by Dr. Bernard Guerney, Jr. and his colleagues at Pennsylvania State University. It has almost 40 years of research behind it with 27 studies of effectiveness. It has been shown to be effective even when there are serious problems, such as infidelity, chemical dependency, or mental illness. Repeated research studies show RE is effective both immediately and over time at changing how couples communicate and at increasing satisfaction with the relationship. Bibliography is included in the references section.

Easy and Fun to Teach

Mastering the Mysteries of Love RE is easy and fun to teach. “Lectures” are minimal because this is a course where participants learn by doing. Once a facilitator can use the skills in his or her own life, teaching them is easy. Each segment is organized with simple layout and directions for presenting, demonstrating, and helping participants practice. Each participant couple receives a participant book. Practice exercises are contained in the book. Videos and other learning aids are available from IDEALS to make preparation and teaching easy. Moreover, as you implement the skills in your own relationships, you are likely to discover that teaching MML is one of the best choices you have made.

Weekly Session or Day-long Format

Mastering the Mysteries of Love RE can be presented as 8 evening sessions, as a One Day Program plus 4 evening sessions, or as a Two Day program.

Multi-Cultural  MML programs teach relationship skills based on core values of honesty and compassion. As a skills program, rather than a program based on content, MML is easily adaptable to various cultures and ethnicities. Long used in the African-American community, MML is now also actively used in the Latino and Korean communities, several Native-American communities, and a dozen or so refugee communities (through a US Committee for Refugees and Immigrants project). IDEALS welcomes inquiries from other cultures and languages about working together to develop materials and programs sensitive to cultural needs.

Spanish and Korean Materials

Participant materials are available in both Spanish and Korean.  Instructional video, and demonstration videos are available in Spanish. The Leader’s Guide will be available in Spanish and Spanish speaking Trainers of Leaders will be able to train new program leaders by January, 2009. An Advisory Council of Latinos trained in Relationship Enhancement from various Spanish-speaking cultures reviews and approves all Spanish MML materials.

Korean participant materials and Leader’s Guides are available. Training in Korean through simultaneous translation is available in the Los Angeles area.

The 10 RE Skills

Showing Understanding 




Conflict Management

Problem Solving


Helping Others Change



Core RE Values